27 September 2023

300th Post on Mental Health and Motivation Website

A Tribute to a Friend on the Silence of Griefing

A Tribute to a Friend on the Silence of Griefing

This morning I completed the 300th post on the Mental Health and Motivation website with a personal tribute to a very close friend of mine who just recently lost a close family member. It is with friendship and honour to know the 300th post was inspired by another extraordinary special friend (of close to 30 years). I wish him and his family the very best in their healing journey.

The post is accompanied by "The Journey of Grieving, Feeling and Healing" video by Dr. Edith Eva Eger. Her work / research on the personal grieving and loss journey was introduced to me by a very special lady during my own double-loss during the past two years who 'stemmed the tide' by reined in my runaway mind. Her 'golden nuggets' of empathy, context and support' where selflessly delivered over many hours of discussion and informal talk therapy. Very much what one would receive by means of formal CBT or ACT psychotherapy.

I was recommended to read two books by Dr. Eger, 'The Choice' and 'The Gift' on her own grief and acceptance journey. It was indeed the first of the 'golden nuggets' I received overcoming grief and the gaining of an acceptance narrative (of which I described in considerable detail on the Mental Health and Motivation website...)

Coping With Silence While Grieving

“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. I keep on swallowing. At other times it feels like being mildly drunk, or concussed. There is a sort of invisible blanket between the world and me. I find it hard to take in what anyone says. Or perhaps, hard to want to take it in. It is so uninteresting. Yet I want the others to be about me. I dread the moments when the house is empty. If only they would talk to one another and not to me.” ― C.S. Lewis

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© Vernon Chalmers : Mental Health and Motivation (Coping with the Silence of Grieving)